1. If you had enough money to live as you wish without employment, what would you do with your time/life?

2. If you were told you had only six months to live, what would you do?

3. What contributions do you want to make during your lifetime? 4. Have you ever had sexual feelings toward another man? What did you do about these feelings?

5. Do you ever feel disconnected from others, the world, even yourself? How do you act upon these feelings?

6. Do you have some kind of spiritual practice or religious tradition that you follow to some degree? How if at all, do these manifest in your daily life?

7. When was there a time you “got caught” doing something you shouldn’t have?

8. Describe a teacher who made a great impact on your life.

9. When do you trust or do not trust your own judgment?

10. What are the benefits of being married? What are the benefits of being single?

11. How has your partner influenced the way in which you think?

12. What does it mean to you to be successful? How did you develop this idea?

13. Do you seek something “better” or are you satisfied if things are “good enough”?

14. How do you react to frustration?

15. Which of your behaviors bring you unhappiness?

16. What is the scariest thing that ever happened to you?

17. What issues do you keep away from the group? Why?

18. How do you sustain passion and enthusiasm about life?

19. How do you tell a friend something he won’t want to hear without offending him?

20. How do you figure out the difference between what you want and what you need?

21. What situations are the most fearful for you?

22. What situations are the most stressful for you? 23. With whom do you share your feelings?

24. Within our group, what keeps you from expressing your vulnerability?

25. Describe the attributes that make you a person worth knowing.

26. Who has influenced your life for the good? How?

27. Which would you prefer, a wild turbulent life filed with job, sorrow, passion, and adventure—intoxicating successes and stunning setbacks; or a happy, secure, predictable life surrounded by friends and family without such wild swings and of fortune and mood? Which dominates your life now? How?

28. How do you react when you believe someone is attempting to control or intimidate you?

29. Do you generally attempt to change yourself or others for accommodation? How?

30. Do you tend to face or avoid conflict? How does this manifest?

31. How do you demonstrate being a leader or a follower in the group?

32. When do you most feel like a boy and most like a man in the group?

33. What do you want most from work?

34. What do you like to do best?

35. What is missing most in your life right now?

36. What do you like most/least about yourself?

37. In what ways are like your father? your mother? 38. How do you express your masculinity?

39. How did you learn to be a man?

40. What marked your transition from boyhood to manhood?

41. What is God's "job description"?

42. What kind of son do you think you were to your father? your mother?

43. Which men was particularly influential for you growing up?

44. Describe the man you always wanted to be. Specifically, how can the men in your group help you become this person?

45. What is something you always wanted to do but thought it was beyond the range of possibility?

46. How do you know when you are in love?

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